Is Marriage crying for her Foundation and Values?

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A FELT MONOLOGUE 

 *Is Marriage crying for her Foundation and Values?* 

Marriage is beautiful with a great love. Someone once said to me: "marriage is not a walk in the park. It is pressure and pleasure". This was her summary of description when asked to define marriage. 

And for some people, sometimes marriage is so harsh when bad character and negative influences comes in to couple financial issues. Nevertheless and technically, bad character, wrong understanding of love and marital responsibilities as well as the lack of knowledge become the biggest multi-faceted challenge to most marriages especially the young adult marriages.

Some people think that the possession, reliable ownership of sources of cash flow assets and the abundance of money settles and seals marriages. Sorry, I have a different option of choice. 

The lack of money itself is not the biggest problem. In fact, most Counselors say, it is really the effect of misunderstanding, lack of communication and bad attitude towards marriage that generate issues and problems in marriages.  

So with very bizarre fall-outs such as hatred and killings, sometimes one would wonder why certain people even got married in the first instance. 

There are many silent causes of divorce and even severe adversities in marriages. In additional to the standards we know and talk about in our communities, counsel sessions and families, there are some others such as, negative In-law  relationship and interferences, witchcrafty, behaviors and personal dislike by an in-law for the spouse of their child or by a spouse for the in-law. Then, there are spiritual encumbrances, practices and covenants that also have their agreeable effects and implications on the marriage and/or the persons in the marriage. 

I have talked about marriage severally by the grace of God and I am still excited about the grace to speak and teach about Marriage in *The Family School of FELT INTERNATIONAL* . 

Many people who have "survived" the various intricacies, abuses and challenges of marriages can, most often, speak well and/or better on the subject of marital harmony, and how best and right to attain it culturally, spiritually, mentally as well as socially, emotionally and economically. 

I found out that at the end of the matter in every marriage, what really counts and matters most is - did you finish well? 

And as I have stated severally, there are indeed tenets for measuring good marriage according to protocols and standards of scripture and human living. 

So, to marry well, kindly make sure that you also follow these:

1. Love: when the two persons in the marriage resolve to continue the marriage in love, trust and respect despite whatever 

2. Life Partner: when they make up their mind to marry till death do they part. 

3. Perseverance: here, they choose to fight a good fight of faith in their Ministry, Money and  Marriage matters.

4. Be Strategic: when they take up opportunities wisely and carefully through and with God's counsel on Wisdom, Counsel, Communication, Prayers and Faithfulness to attain Fruitfulness

5. Resolution and Decision: they decide to enjoy their family and friends on the five (5) key tenets of a good marriage - Serviceability, Education. Virtues, Trade and Sex.

I heard of a Muslim who divorced to marry a Christian lover. And I also heard of a Christian lover who converted into Islam so as to marry the wife of his heart. Thinking through thoroughly and asking certain standard questions, I conclude on postulation. 

I believe religion does not deeply and really affect the love, affection, attributes and works of marriage, though they can affect the principles, values and activities of marriage. But, does religion affect the tools to enhance and engage the sexual, material and visual graces of love in marriages? My ears are still open to learn more from the great Clerics and the powerful Pastors. 

This is certain for sure that both Christian and Moslem family principles and values are under threat despite great opportunities of love that marriage presents to the family, people, society and to the nations. 

Is marriage under spiritual and moral attack? Why is Divorce rate increasing to very high numbers? And theseddays, those considering divorce too are many. Some people who also fall out in courtships with bad experiences do not want to even marry; preferring domestic partnership, stay ins, cohabitation and so on.

I know and I have experience that Love in Marriage is Godly, and when anyone shows and shines the true nature of Love sincerely, truthfully and wisely, then surely that person is basically showing Respect and Appreciation in Worship to God and to the spouse, and even to everyone and/or everything of God and of earth. 

But how can the lover or the loved understand the importance or inheritances thereof when he or she has been so hurt, swindled or even emotionally damaged through the activations, expressions and commitments of Love? 

I found out that it is of great wisdom and trans-generational benefits never to disappoint a good, faithful, virtuous, kind, committed and valuable love in any form of a relationship; be it courtship or marriage. 

First and foremost, one must be receptive to the cordiality, peace, harmony and genuineness of heart cum a sound mind in order to gather and gain momentum, reconciliation and agreements to break any form of resistance to the cohesion and benefits of the ministry, money and marriage affairs. 

It is therefore important to deal with Pride & Unforgiveness of the Heart to terminate the spirit and force of separation that often times come up to threaten marriages and break up spouses and their families. 

As a caution, one must always remember that Things, Forms, Bodies, People and Spirits; even Demons get irritated in one and many ways, and even at various times. 

That is why one can often hear - don't irritate the demons in him/her. So, I have understood that in even the so-called perfect marriage, and in working out its salvation and continuity with fear and trembling, one must be open to provisions of counsel, development of emotional stability, care, love, attention, the discipline of words and actions, respect, good attitude, hard-work, forgiveness, good food, good sex, great personal attractions and aromas of glory, among others, in order not to irritate even the world in, on and around the spouse. 

It is key also for anyone in a marriage to be careful, mindful and patient with firstly your spouse, then with the neighbors, in-laws, relatives, bosses, colleagues, families and friends, and even with the mere man one encounters and engages daily - they often count in the creation and sustainability of the marriage. *To be cont'd...*

- Charles Kwamena Ackon